payment up front or cash on arrival

Deposit=throw your money away.

I've been scammed twice now.

I was wary after the first scam.

The lady seemed so genuine, so I paid a deposit for the second time. Got postcode, arrived and fired off a text to say I've arrived.. only to be ghosted.

I genuinely feel sorry for the ladies who have been messed around, and who now require a deposit to confirm the booking. It's not fair for them, they've lost a potential booking because some butt crack decides that it's funny to book and have no intention of turning up..

So, now it's cash on arrival.

So, sorry ladies, I'll happily text, talk on the phone Etc to book, place a booking request, confirm, leave genuine feedback (and hopefully get the same in return ) etc etc

I only ever pay cash on arrival… have been scammed previously so “once bitten” fits the bill. I am however more than willing to provide uber transport at my expense.

I rarely if ever get no showed I can’t remember the last time it happened
But there is a guy who for the past 7 -8 years will try and book - change his number / name every time I’m back home and available . But he copies and pastes around 5 -6 texts which I recognize. He booked once years ago and no showed but I know it’s him he used the same names and his requests are always the same

Now him - I tell him I want a big deposit as I know he isn’t going to turn up 😂 funnily he never pays despite agreeing to

But If it’s a time that I’m not generally working then I will ask for a small deposit via wishtender 10. -20 pounds max
I prefer this as it’s discrete and no chance of clients doing a charge back and getting my account closed or my personal details if my bank see 15 Min B&G with Miss B 😂 honestly I’ve seen it happen to a lot of my friends who’s accounts have been closed

But I also explain why I require a deposit and if they still want to see me then they can call on the day and see if I am available which is fine with me as I actually prefer same day bookings

I don't take deposits, and I think most service providers don't take deposits, but I want to say this: sorry - it's an essay - welcome to me world!

No-shows are so annoying and make a significant impact on my livelihood and my mental well-being.

I haven't analysed my records, but I'd guess about 1 in 40 of my bookings just doesn't turn up. This has made me more inclined to prefer bookings via AW booking system as I find they are ore reliable for the first time booking.

A few men cancel at very short notice - that's different and fine because at least I know, and I'm not getting ready and waiting around.

Take my situation - I do 2-hour sessions, and I don't work from home, so I have travelled to my workplace - got it warmed up, and I've blanked 3 hors out of my day when I could have been doing something else.

BTW, that "something else" that I could have been doing is working my other job.
The two jobs are what I need to cover my bills. There aren't many service providers who have so much money they don't know what to do with it. And so much free time we don't mind just sitting around waiting.

So, NO SHOWS aren't just a little inconvenient irritation. They have huge implications.
Their behaviour has a knock-on effect on how WE service providers treat YOU guys, the clients.

If it is someone I've seen before, then great, I'll book them in.
If it is a new client but with good feedback on AW - again, I book them in with confidence.

But when an unknown quantity contacts me to see me THAT DAY - perhaps in 1 hour's time, I have to wonder whether I should drop everything to go and wait for them.

If MORE guys were more reliable and honest then WE would be more accommodating with bookings. I think we'd take more books if we felt the guys were going to be reliable.

Also, I often have several people wanting to book for the same day - in that case, I might accept a booking with the WRONG MAN, which is annoying when I could have seen someone who pays.

I recall last summer, a few people didn't show up - it was about 3 or 4 over 10 days, and I could have been enjoying days out at the beach with my family instead.

It's these things that lead people to leave the business altogether or require deposits.

Just my thoughts.
I'm not about to take deposits as that comes with a different pile of issues that I don't need to trouble myself with.

Hey I don't know if I should message as an escort but in my own opinion I always expect my clients to pay cash on arrival!

The only time this changed is - say a client wanted to see me for a 2 hour session like 1.5 hours away from my home address, I would ask my client to cover transport costs so I'm not out of pocket, wether that be, booking the taxi themselves or sending money for this.

No escort should ever have to be out of pocket for travelling to a client, and no client should ever be scammed

If you are unsure the escort is legitimate ask them to send you like a live pic or a quick video call of their face?

If the escort asks you to send money upfront my bank and not cash on arrival I would avoid.

Keep safe ❤️

It's easy really. Just a bit of vetting should be ok. If the escort has many outstanding reviews, I would say pay a deposit if required. We have taken deposits on a few occasions but avoid it where we can. We have never ripped anyone off. Cash on arrival is always best or even a bank transfer on arrival is good but it works both ways. Escorts have to put up with a lot of timewasters. My suggestion is do a bit of vetting and use your discretion.

AS said Before - I NLY TAKE cash on arrival.
Even though it is very inconvenient when people just don't turn up.

I see some of the CLIENTS who reply in this thread are concerned about service providers knowing their real identities.

I think you would be interested to know in my experience, most make no attempt to hide their real identity. They use their real name to book. Give their normal everyday phone number and email address.

Often, their numbers and email addresses are linked to the businesses where they work or that they run.

A few seconds on the internet allows me to identify most of my clients. And for us women that is very reassuring.

We worry too - that the guy could be violent, be a thief, or not turn up, or cause trouble at our workplace/ with our neighbors.

If you have done your research you can be sure the woman is genuine, so don't worry about that.

Paying upfront its not good idea so many scammers

Well there’s just too many punters who mess us about and also that banks have upped their fraud prevention and the transfers don’t clear when they supposed to or at all. There are many different scenarios, that could potentially happen before arrival or after. Those who provide outcall services are taking bigger risk.

Totally agree 👍🏻