Excluding clients based on bad experiences

Hi girls
Hope you’re all well and staying safe during lockdown.

So do many of you exclude certain clients based on bad experiences?

I used to see everyone from all ages but recently I’ve had a lot of cancellation or bad bookings from black gents.
As a Moroccan and Jamaican girl I would love to see everyone.
But I’ve had to call the police on more than 4 black gents based on their threatening behaviour.
I wouldn’t want to exclude clients but I can’t handle the emotional abuse and threats to my self and my house because they can’t control themselves.

Today I had a 38yr old black guy, he was over 30mins late, which meant I had to cancel my other booking, he refused to then stay the hour he booked and wanted 30mins.
I took my he money and he went to snatch it out my hand. Which is took back £20.
I said that that’s very rude and he got irate because I was telling him I take my time to clean the room, fresh sheets etc to get ready and he dangles money in my face like that.
So by that time he was arguing with me for nearly 30mins so I told him to leave.
He wanted his money back to which I said no.

I made myself available and he messed that up.
He threatened me and told me his mates weee coming round.
This is the common thing with black gents, they shout and threaten instead of talking and being nice.

I don’t want to exclude black clients as they can be nice but I can’t sacrifice my safety again.
Every time I have an altercation it’s a black gent either being rude and pushy or rude and then wanting extras fro free.
In this case he was extremely rude, trying to bait me with payment the. Pulling it away. And he was late. Resulting in me losing another client.

Am I wrong to exclude black clients because of these experiences?
I don’t want to be called a racist! Or sent more abuse because I don’t seem some gents.
But having the police over tonight and being threatened is not nice. Over something he created!

I’ve reported to police and num but I fear he’ll come back.
It really makes me think twice about genuine clients girls.
I’m not sure what to do.

Alexa

Hey lovely, sorry you’ve had that experience.

Please do not feel bad for refusing to see a certain type of client. I would do exactly the same. You are not obliged to see anybody, I’m hella picky about who I see! You do not need to explain to anybody why you don’t want to see them... your body, your business, your rules!

The way some of these guys talk to us is disgusting and should not be tolerated. You did the right thing in reporting him, please also report him on Client Eye if you haven’t already.

Xx

Too bad you had that experience, good thing you reported him.

Thank you ladies for your replies.
Oh il have a look on client eye, never heard of that are before so I definitely will do that!
I need more places where I can look for bad clients/vet clients better before hand.

I’ve had to exclude younger gents as in my area they just don’t seem to know how to ask for a booking without sending dick pics or talking to me like I’m a piece of meat.

And I do feel bad, I don’t like to label anyone or purposely exclude gents but when I continually get the same behaviour from certain people I have to.
This isn’t just like a small disagreement. They legit go full crazy with threats and calling on unknow numbers threatening.
Over their own lack of reading my page or knowing exactly what they are getting into.

Are there any other ways you girls like to vet your clients? Please do message if it’s easier to say over a message.

Thank you!
Xx

As a jamacian and morracan women....you love to see everyone?? You should not be escorting if that is how you feel you will be a danger to self and others

hi summer,

thanks for your response, albeit victim blaming ha.

so as an escort i should welcome anyone regardless of how theyve treated other service providers?

i also said, ' i would love to see everyone' but ofcourse i am more than able to pick and choose who i see.

not sure where you got me being a danger to myself or others so kindly go away with your unhelpful message.

ive been an escprt since i was 18, and can honestly say more escprts need to be understanding of eacother- not making things up.

but ofcourse we all have bad experinces with men or women of any colour, i feel as a black woman i attract black clients aswell as white clients, more so, and unfortunately, majority of my black clinets of a certain age have been horrendous.
sp ofcourse i can pick and choose, i also vet my cliebts on ce, which also proves my point!!!

thanks summer!